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Erin Rhodes's avatar

Thanks so much for sharing the Eileen Reuter piece! As a PhD student who has recently (a year ago) become a mom, I’ve been struggling and this article was a major dose of encouragement.

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Louise (the mother)'s avatar

I didn’t read the article about doctoral student mothers, but I am glad to hear that women in all walks of life are being encouraged to have families and embrace motherhood. However, I get the impression from many fronts (articles, movies, novels) that we somehow have to spend time encouraging mothers in their careers and education, as if that aspect of motherhood is under attack, or in danger of not being fostered. At the same time, I see very little on the same fronts in terms of encouragement to be primarily a homemaker (not excluding an intellectual life, just one that serves the home and family first), and encouragement for young women who desire this, and do not desire a career or higher education. For example, we like to sometimes watch those light Christian romance movies, along the lines of the old Hallmark movies, and you NEVER find a main character who just wants to get married and raise a family--apparently that is an embarrassing desire that shouldn’t be encouraged, or only for the ignorant, or something. To be fair, this isn’t new. I was in college in the early 80’s and all I wanted was to be a wife and mother, but I spent a lot of time making excuses and choosing a major that didn’t make me look bad--then I chose elementary school teaching in the hope that if I had to work, I could have the same schedule as my kids. But, I was, even then, embarrassed to tell people I didn’t want to work outside the home. I still don’t--I love my home life and being with my young adult kids. And, frankly, for the future of society, that ought to be okay for a large percentage of mothers. Wondering what you think?

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