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Christen Shore's avatar

I think the problem as a modern reader is .... that I'm a modern reader. In these books, I always want them to just ask the question or just write them a letter or something. But of course, it's totally inappropriate for you to write a letter to someone you're not engaged to. And it's inappropriate to be so direct. I would be totally frustrated in that time frame.

Could Edward really have done anything differently? I think probably not. His wearing the hair ring was probably to clue Elinor in on his being attached to someone else? She seemed confused about how he got her hair to make the ring. If she didn't give him the hair, shouldn't that have tipped her off that it was someone else's hair?

My sense was that he didn't really have the intention to stop by the cottage and instead just got caught being in the area. If he had intended to pursue Elinor, he would have come right away. I think he was trying to do his best to not lead Elinor on, while still maintaining the relationship. He was their brother in law, in fact, so a visit is appropriate in that way.

I honestly think he was doing the best he could. Truly, if he had made a commitment to another and had just broken it because something better came along, he probably wouldn't be the right person for Elinor anyway. She seems to take commitments seriously. If he had dissolved his relationship with Lucy because he liked Elinor more, and Elinor had found out, I wonder whether she would have called off the engagement herself because of his poor character.

I think the mystery of why people are acting the way they are in this book is a big part of the charm. Plus it reveals the constancy or lack thereof of Elinor and Marianne. So if it had been written differently, I am not sure I would have liked it as well.

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Elise Boratenski's avatar

I think the best way to answer this question is to look at Edward’s own self-assessment and explanation at the end of the book (spoilers ahead!). Elinor “scolds” for the “imprudence” of spending so much time with them when he “must have felt his own inconstancy.” Edmund asserts that, initially, he trusted to the fact of his engagement to “keep my heart as safe and sacred as my honor.” Because of this, he convinces himself that his regard for Elinor is merely friendship, and it isn’t until he starts mentally comparing Lucy and Elinor that he realizes how far gone he was. At that point, he admits he was wrong to continue spending time with the Dashwoods, a wrong he justified by the “expediency” of believing “I am doing no injury to anybody but myself.” So, Edward knew (initially subconsciously and later consciously) that it was wrong to spend time with someone who he was coming to care more for than his fiancé. He didn’t have the strength of character to stay away, and convinced himself it was ok because he was the only one being hurt. But that’s a pretty big risk to take when there’s no way of knowing for sure Elinor isn’t interested/he isn’t raising expectations. And as a want to be clergyman you’d think he’d keep in mind passages about “committing adultery in the heart.” That isn’t to say I think Edward did any sort of fantasizing or deliberate acts of mental unfaithfulness; he can’t help his feelings. But as soon as they were apparent he should have left (as he owns) in order to remove a serious source of temptation to himself and potential hurt to another (Elinor).

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